If you haven't read the first article in this series, please go to go back to the Overcome Procrastination intro and read it now.
Assessment: Confidence vs. Conciliation
Rank yourself 1 to 10 on the following statements:
“When I’m telling a story, it’s important for me to relate all of the details leading up to the main point, in order to be fully understood.”
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 That’s not me That’s so me!
“I’m much better at giving. Receiving (compliments, gifts, favors, help) is hard.”
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 That’s not me That’s so me!
“I’m always looking for approval, and will do things the way I think others want it done.”
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 That’s not me That’s so me!
“I usually procrastinate by doing people-centered / family-centered things.”
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 That’s not me That’s so me!
“When I think of taking action toward my goals, there’s so many thoughts about what others will think, or will I make so-and-so jealous, or how I will make them feel?”
1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 That’s not me That’s so me!
**Average Score: _______**
We’ll discuss what your score means in Article 6 of this first series. As you go along, each step will make sure that you look at overcoming procrastination from every angle, so enjoy the journey (and the new perspectives!)
For now, let’s look at the test this way...
If you were to step instantly into your full potential – I mean right now, start to shine really brightly and suddenly become all bad-ass-fantastic:
- Would you become the kind of person who’d get snooty and “holier than thou” about your success?
- Or would you use that success to inspire others?
It’s a legitimate question, because the people who show it off the most are the ones who are most insecure about it.
So, when you climb to the top, will you do so in a way that shows your integrity, your unique talents, your belief in the unique talents of others?
If so, you will develop the kind of self-ownership and magnanimity along the way that makes you the very best kind of success – the kind that reminds others that they can shine too.
If, on the other hand, you need that success – just gotta have it! – in order to prove to others that you’re worth something, then you’ll probably end up being a successful jerk like some others (don’t get us wrong, there’s plenty of unsuccessful jerks, and plenty of wonderful, successful people!)
Either way you go, the starting point is the same:
You’re equally as worthy as every single other person on this earth. I don’t care who you are, I don’t care what happened in the past, I don’t care who said what about you when, I don’t even care if you think worthiness is a BS concept... we are all equal.
- Equally endowed? Maybe not. Each of us has his or her natural strengths.
- Equally worthy? Unquestionably so.
If you scored above a 6 on the self-esteem assessment, then you can really benefit by being powerfully reminded of how your equality – your worthiness – strengthens with every action you take (and we’ve got great suggestions for the right kinds of action!)
Keep reading, and let it unfold.
Article 2 Re-cap.
You and the guy driving the banana-yellow hummer with the 20” chromes playing his music 4x louder than last week’s block party... yeah, that guy... equally worthy.
So step up and shine in your own way, because we know you’ll do it in the way that inspires magnanimity.
- Which one of the assessment statements above resonated with you the most?
- How would you benefit (and how would you feel) if that statement wasn’t true for you any more?
View all the other parts of this six part procrastination series:
Part 1: Why do we procastrinate.
Part 2: Low self esteem and lack of confidence - you are here now.
Part 4: Fear of success and of the unknown.